Примечания
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Western, educated, industrialized, rich (or at least middle class) and democratic. – Здесь и далее прим. пер.
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1. The Asexuality Visibility and Education Network, https://asexuality.org/.
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Abigail van Buren, Dear Abby: Condolences Better Late than Never, Monterey Herald, syndicated in Maui News, September 16, 2013, https://www. montereyherald.com/2013/09/16/dear-abby-condolences-better-late-than-never/.
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Andrew C. Hinderliter, Methodological Issues for Studying Asexuality, Archives of Sexual Behavior 38, no. 5 (2009): 620, https://doi.org/10.1007/ s10508-009-9502-x.
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Donna J. Drucker, Marking Sexuality from 0–6: The Kinsey Scale in Online Culture, Sexuality & Culture 16, no. 3 (September 2012): 243-46, https://doi. org/10.1007/s12119-011-9122-1.
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Alfred C. Kinsey, Wardell B. Pomeroy, and Clyde E. Martin, Sexual Behavior in the Human Male (Philadelphia and London: W.B. Saunders, 1948), 656.
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Julie Kliegman, How Zines Paved the Way for Asexual Recognition, them., November 6, 2019, https://www.them.us/story/asexual-zines.
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Andrew C. Hinderliter, The Evolution of Online Asexual Discourse, PhD diss., University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign, 2016.
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Hinderliter, The Evolution of Online Asexual Discourse.
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Andrew C. Hinderliter, How Is Asexuality Different from Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder? Psychology and Sexuality 4, no. 2 (2013): 171-73, https:// doi.org/10.1080/19419899.2013.774165.
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Hinderliter, How Is Asexuality Different? 172.
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Lori A. Brotto and Morag A. Yule, Physiological and Subjective Sexual Arousal in Self-Identified Asexual Women, Archives of Sexual Behavior 40, no. 4 (August 2011): 699–712, https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-010-9671-7.
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David Jay, #10 – The Masturbation Paradox, Love from the Asexual Underground, September 26, 2006, http://asexualunderground.blogspot.com/2006/09/10-masturbation-paradox.html.
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Поколение «снежинок» – термин для обозначения поколения, годы взросления которого пришлись на начало XXI века; название подчеркивает их уязвимость и уверенность в своей исключительности.
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C.J. Chasm, Asexuality and Re/Constructing Sexual Orientation, in Expanding the Rainbow: Exploring the Relationships of Bi +, Polyamorous, Kinky, Ace, Intersex, and Trans People, ed. Brandy L. Simula et al (Boston: Brill, 2019).
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Adrienne Rich, Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence, Signs 5, no. 4 (Summer 1980): 631-60, https://doi.org/10.1080/09574049008578015.
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Rich, Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence.
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Лесбийская смерть в постели – это концепция, согласно которой лесбийские пары, состоящие в преданных отношениях, имеют меньше секса, чем любой другой тип пары.
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L. Kann, Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance – United States, 2015, MMWR Surveillance Summaries 63, no. 4 (June 10, 2016), https://www.cdc.gov/ healthyyouth/data/yrbs/pdf/2015/ss6506_updated.pdf.
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J.M. Twenge, R.A. Sherman, et al. Declines in Sexual Frequency among American Adults, 1989–2014, Archives of Sexual Behavior 46, no. 8 (November 2017): 2389, https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-017-0953-1.
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Kate Julian, Why Are Young People Having So Little Sex? Atlantic, December 2018, https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/12/the-sex-recession/573949.
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Jake Novak, America’s Sex Recession Could Lead to an Economic Depression, CNBC, October 25, 2019, https://www.cnbc.com/2019/10/25/americas-sex-recession-could-lead-to-an-economic-depression.html.
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Novak, America’s Sex Recession Could Lead to an Economic Depression.
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Alessandra Potenza, People Are Having Less Sex – Maybe Because of all Our Screen Time, Verge, March 11, 2017, https://www.theverge.com/2017/3/11/14881062/americans-sexual-activity-decline-study-happinessinternet-tv.
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Tara Bahrampour, There Really Isn’t Anything Magical about It: Why More Millennials Are Avoiding Sex, Washington Post, August 2, 2016, https://www. Washington post.com/local/social-issues/there-isnt-really-anything-magical-about-it-why-more-millennials-are-putting-off-sex/2016/08/02/e7b73d6e-37f4-11e6-8f7c-d4c723a2becb_story.html.
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Rachel Hills, The Sex Myth: The Gap between Our Fantasies and Reality (New York: Simon & Schuster, 2015), 15–16.
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Sophie Gilbert, How Hugh Hefner Commercialized Sex, Atlantic, September 28, 2017, https://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2017/09/how-hugh-hefner-commercialized-sex/541368.
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Caroline Bauer, Tristan Miller, et al., The 2016 Asexual Community Survey Summary Report, Ace Community Survey, November 15, 2018, https:// asexualcensus.files.wordpress.com/2018/11/2016_ace_community_survey_ report.pdf.
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Alan D. DeSantis, Inside Greek U: Fraternities, Sororities, and the Pursuit of Power, Pleasure, and Prestige (Lexington: University Press of Kentucky, 2007), 43–44.
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Kim Parker, Juliana Menasce Horowitz, and Renee Stepler, On Gender Differences, No Consensus on Nature vs. Nurture, Pew Research Center, December 5, 2017, https://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2017/12/05/ on-gender-differences-no-consensus-on-nature-vs-nurture/#millennial-men-are-far-more-likely-than-those-in-older-generations-to-say-men-face-pressure-to-throw-a-punch-if-provoked-join-in-when-others-talk-about-women-in-a-sexual-way-and-have-many-sexual-par.
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C. Brian Smith, When Having Sex Is a Requirement for Being Considered A Real Man, MEL Magazine, 2018, https://melmagazine.com/en-us/story/when-having-sex-is-a-requirement-for-being-considered-a-real-man.
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Ela Przybylo, Masculine Doubt and Sexual Wonder: Asexually-Identified Men Talk About Their (A) sexualites, in Asexualities: Feminist and Queer Perspectives, ed. Megan Milks and KJ Cerankowski (New York: Routledge, 2014), 225-46.
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Pryzyblo, Masculine Doubt and Sexual Wonder.
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Alim Kheraj, Not Every Gay Man Is DTF, GQ, April 5, 2018, https://www. gq.com/story/not-every-gay-man-is-dtf.
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Pryzyblo, Masculine Doubt and Sexual Wonder.
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Peter Baker, The Woman Who Accidentally Started the Incel Movement, Elle, March 1, 2016, https://www.elle.com/culture/news/a34512/woman-who-started-incel-movement.
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Marc Lamoureux, This Group of Straight Men Is Swearing Off Women, Vice, September 24, 2015, https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/7bdwyx/inside-the-global-collective-of-straight-male-separatists.
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Olivia Solon, ‘Incel’: Reddit Bans Misogynist Men’s Group Blaming Women For Their Celibacy, Guardian, November 8, 2017, https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2017/nov/08/reddit-incel-involuntary-celibate-men-ban.
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Ian Lovett and Adam Nagourney, Video Rant, Then Deadly Rampage in California Town, New York Times, May 24, 2014, https://www.nytimes.com/2014/05/25/us/california-drive-by-shooting.html.
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Gianluca Mezzofiore, The Toronto Suspect Apparently Posted about an Incel Rebellion. Here’s What That Means, CNN, April 25, 2018, https://edition.cnn.com/2018/04/25/us/incel-rebellion-alek-minassian-toronto-attack-trnd/index. html.
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Fox News, Asexuality a Sexual Orientation? August 21, 2012, https://video.foxnews.com/v/1797282177001.
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Fox News, Asexuality a Sexual Orientation?
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Fox News, Asexuality a Sexual Orientation?
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Michel Foucault, The History of Sexuality, Vol. 1 (New York: Random House, 1978), 19–23.
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Rebecca Traister, Why Consensual Sex Can Still Be Bad, The Cut, October 20, 2015, https://www.thecut.com/2015/10/why-consensual-sex-can-still-be-bad.html.
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Nan D. Hunter, Contextualizing the Sexuality Debates: A Chronology 19662005, in Sex Wars: Sexual Dissent and Political Culture (10th Anniversary Edition), ed. Lisa Duggan and Nan D. Hunter (New York: Routledge, 2006), 22, 23.
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Lisa Duggan, Censorship in the Name of Feminism, Sex Wars: Sexual Dissent and Political Culture (10th Anniversary Edition), ed. Lisa Duggan and Nan D. Hunter (New York: Routledge, 2006), 32.
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Hunter, Contextualizing the Sexuality Debates, 23–24.
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Ellen Willis, Lust Horizons: Is the Women’s Movement Pro-Sex? No More Nice Girls: Countercultural Essays (Minneapolis: University of Minnesota Press, 2012), 6–8.
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Chloe Hall, It’s 2019 And Women Are Horny As Heck, Elle, January 24, 2019, https://www.elle.com/culture/a26006074/women-horny-2019.
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Totally Soaked, The Cut, 2019. https://www.thecut.com/tags/totally-soaked.
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Tracy Egan Morrissey, The Year Women Got Horny, New York Times, December 13, 2019, https://www.nytimes.com/2019/12/13/style/horny-women.html.
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Framboise, No True Sex Positive Feminist, The Radical Prude, March 25, 2012, https://radicalprude.blogspot.com/2012/03/no-true-sex-positive-feminist.html.
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Framboise, No True Sex Positive Feminist.
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Gayle Rubin, Thinking Sex: Notes for a Radical Theory of the Politics of Sexuality, in Pleasure and Danger: Exploring Female Sexuality, ed. Carole S. Vance (Boston: Routledge & Kegan Paul, 1984), 267–311.
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WASP – термин, обозначавший привилегированное происхождение. Аббревиатура расшифровывается как «белый протестант англосаксонского происхождения».
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Yasmin Nair, Your Sex Is Not Radical, Yasmin Nair, June 27, 2015. http:// yasminnair.net/content/your-sex-not-radical.
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Rubin, Thinking Sex.
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Glick, Sex Positive.
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Rafia Zakaria, Sex and the Muslim Feminist, New Republic, November 13, 2015, https://newrepublic.com/article/123590/sex-and-the-muslim-feminist.
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Zakaria, Sex and the Muslim Feminist.
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Nair, Your Sex Is Not Radical.
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Breanne Fahs, Freedom To and Freedom From’: A New Vision for SexPositive Politics, Sexualities 17, no. 3 (2014): 267-90, https://doi.org/10.1177/1363460713516334.
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Julian, Why Are Young People Having So Little Sex?
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Emily Bazelon, The Return of the Sex Wars, New York Times Magazine, September 10, 2015, https://www.nytimes.com/2015/09/13/magazine/the-return-of-the-sex-wars.html.
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Fahs, Freedom To and Freedom From.
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Lisa Downing, What Is Sex-Critical and Why Should We Care about It? Sex Critical, July 27, 2012, http://sexcritical.co.uk/2012/07/27/what-is-sex-critical-and-why-should-we-care-about-it.
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Asexual Census, A History of Previous Ace Community Surveys, https:// asexualcensus.wordpress.com/faq/a-history-of-previous-ace-community-surveys.
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Caroline Bauer et al., The 2016 Asexual Community Survey Summary Report (November 15, 2018), https://asexualcensus.files.wordpress.com/2018/11/2016_ace_community_survey_report.pdf.
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Bauer et al., The 2016 Asexual Community Survey Summary Report.
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Combahee River Collective, The Combahee River Collective Statement, 1977, https://americanstudies.yale.edu/sites/default/files/files/Keyword%20 Coalition_Readings.pdf.
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Kimberle Crenshaw, Demarginalizing the Intersection of Race and Sex: A Black Feminist Critique of Antidiscrimination Doctrine, Feminist Theory, and Antiracist Politics, University of Chicago Legal Forum 1989, no. 1, article 8 (1989), http://chicagounbound.uchicago.edu/uclf/vol1989/iss1/8.
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Pauline E. Schloesser, The Fair Sex: White Women and Racial Patriarchy in the Early American Republic (New York: New York University Press, 2002), 54.
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Andrea Lim, The Alt-Right’s Asian Fetish, New York Times, January 6, 2018, https://www.nytimes.com/2018/01/06/opinion/sunday/alt-right-asian-fetish. html.
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Craig Kilborn, Sebastian, the Asexual Icon, The Late Late Show with Craig Kilborn, CBS, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YdlVAvjvKec and: https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=34&v=8-tUM1FZH7U&feature=emb_logo.
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Sara Ghaleb, Asexuality Is Still Hugely Misunderstood. TV Is Slowly Changing That, Vox, March 26, 2018, https://www.vox.com/culture/2018/3/26/16291562/asexuality-tv-history-bojack-shadowhunters-game-of-thrones.
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Game of Thrones, The Laws of Gods and Men, season 4, episode 6, May 11, 2014, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YK8zhFnsBGA.
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BoJack Horseman, Stupid Piece of Sh*t, season 4, episode 6, September 8, 2017.
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Anthony F. Bogaert, Asexuality: Prevalence and Associated Factors in a National Probability Sample, Journal of Sex Research 41, no. 3 (August 2004): 279-87, www.jstor.org/stable/4423785.
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GLAAD Media Institute, Where We Are On TV: 2019–2020, https://www.glaad.org/sites/default/files/GLAAD%20WHERE%20WE%20ARE%200N%20 TV%202019%202020.pdf.
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Carlos Aguilar, BoJack Horseman’s Biggest Mystery: Is Todd Supposed to Be Latino? Vulture, September 19, 2018, https://www.vulture.com/2018/09/bojack-horseman-todd-chavez-latino.html. Adrienne Green, How Black Girls Aren’t Presumed to Be Innocent, Atlantic, June 29, 2017, https://www.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2017/06/black-girls-innocence-georgetown/532050.
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Ianna Hawkins Owen, On the Racialization of Asexuality, in Asexualities: Feminist and Queer Perspectives, ed. KJ Cerankowski and Megan Milks (New York: Routledge, 2014).
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Sherronda J. Brown, Black Asexuals Are Not Unicorns, There Are More of Us Than We Know, Black Youth Project, October 25, 2019, http://blackyouthproject.com/black-asexuals-are-not-unicorns-there-are-more-of-us-than-we-know.
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Katherine Angel, The History of Female Sexual Dysfunction as a Mental Disorder in the 20th Century, Current Opinion in Psychiatry 23, no. 6 (November 2010): 536-41, https://doi.org/10.1097/YCO.0b013e32833db7a1.
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Lori A. Brotto, The DSM Criteria for Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder in Women, Archives of Sexual Behavior 39, no. 2 (April 2010): 221-39, https:// doi.org /10.1007/s10508-009-9543-1.
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Peter M. Cryle and Alison M. Moore, Frigidity: An Intellectual History (New York: Palgrave Macmillan, 2011), 47.
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Rossella E. Nappi et al., Management of Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder in Women: Current and Emerging Therapies, International Journal of Women’s Health 2010, no. 2 (August 2010): 167-75, https://doi.org/10.2147/ywh.s7578.
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Kristina Gupta and Thea Cacchioni, Sexual Improvement as If Your Health Depends on It: An Analysis of Contemporary Sex Manuals, Feminism & Psychology 23, no. 4 (2013): 442–458, https://doi.org/10.1177/0959353513498070.
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Laura Gilbert, FDA Panel Rejects P&G Female Sex-Drive Patch, MarketWatch, December 2, 2014, https://www.marketwatch.com/story/fda-panel
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Brigid Schulte, From 1952–2015: The Path to Female Viagra Has Been a Rocky One, Washington Post, August 18, 2015, https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/to-your-health/wp/2015/08/17/female-viagra-could-get-fda-approval-this-week.
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Gardiner Harris, Pfizer Gives Up Testing Viagra on Women, New York Times, February 28, 2004, https://www.nytimes.com/2004/02/28/business/pfizer-gives-up-testing-viagra-on-women.html.
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T.S. Sathyanarayana Rao and Chittaranjan Andrade, Flibanserin: Approval of a Controversial Drug For A Controversial Disorder, Indian Journal of Psychiatry, 57, no. 3 (2015): 221-23, https://doi.org/10.4103/0019-5545.166630.
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Andrew Pollack, F.D.A. Approves Addyi, a Libido Pill for Women, New York Times, August 18, 2015, https://www.nytimes.com/2015/08/19/business/fda-approval-addyi-female-viagra.html.
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Jennifer Block and Liz Canner, The Grassroots Campaign for Female Viagra Was Actually Funded by Its Manufacturer, The Cut, September 8, 2016, https:// www.thecut.com/2016/09/how-addyi-the-female-viagra-won-fda-approval.html.
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Katie Thomas and Gretchen Morgenson, The Female Viagra, Undone by a Drug Maker’s Dysfunction, New York Times, April 9, 2016, https://www.nytimes.com/2016/04/10/business/female-viagra-addyi-valeant-dysfunction.html.
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Katie Thomas, New Sex Drug for Women to Improve Low Libido Is Approved by the F.D.A., New York Times, June 21, 2019, https://www.nytimes.com/2019/ 06/21/health/vyleesi-libido-women.html.
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Thomas, New Sex Drug for Women to Improve Low Libido Is Approved by the F.D.A.
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Richard Balon, The DSM Criteria of Sexual Dysfunction: Need for a Change, Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy 34, no. 3 (2008): 186-97, doi:10.1080/ 00926230701866067.
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Andrew C. Hinderliter, How Is Asexuality Different from Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder? Psychology and Sexuality 4, no. 2 (2013): 171-73, doi.org/ 10.1080/19419899.2013.774165.
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American Psychiatric Association, Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders: Fifth Edition (Arlington, VA: American Psychiatric Association, 2013), 434, 443.
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Grace Medley et al., Sexual Orientation and Estimates of Adult Substance Use and Mental Health: Results from the 2015 National Survey on Drug Use and Health, SAMHSA, https://www.samhsa.gov/data/sites/default/files/NSDUH-SexualOrientation-2015/NSDUH-SexualOrientation-2015/NSDUH-SexualOrientation-2015.htm.
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Hinderliter, How Is Asexuality Different from Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder?
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Mikala Jamison, Horny Pens for All, Outline, December 30, 2019, https:// theoutline.com/post/8481/every-woman-deserves-to-try-vyleesi-aka-the-horny-pen-if-she-wants.
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Lori Brotto et al., Asexuality: An Extreme Variant of Sexual Desire Disorder? Journal of Sexual Medicine 12, no. 3 (March 2015): 646-60, https://doi.org/10.1111/jsm.12806.
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Adam Cohen, Imbeciles: The Supreme Court, American Eugenics, and the Sterilization of Carrie Buck (New York: Penguin Books, 2016), 6-10, 26–39.
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Когда Фицджеральд писал слова, цитируемые выше, профилактика чаще всего понималась как расширение идеологии и практики евгеники. Придерживаясь теории «расовой гигиены» сторонников превосходства белых, врачи рекомендовали «профилактические» решения социальных проблем. Эти решения включали в том числе «негативную евгенику» – институционализацию и принудительную стерилизацию проституток, бедных женщин, цветных женщин и людей с ограниченными возможностями.
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Paul Lombardo, Three Generations, No Imbeciles: Eugenics, the Supreme Court, and Buck v. Bell (Baltimore: Johns Hopkins Press, 2010), 49.
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Jules Hathaway, The Spirit of Buck V. Bell Survives in Our Demonizing of Marginalized Groups, Bangor Daily News, April 30, 2017, https:// bangordailynews.com/2017/04/30/opinion/contributors/the-spirit-of-buck-v-bell-survives-in-our-demonizing-of-marginalized-groups.
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Katharine Quarmby, Disabled and Fighting for a Sex Life, Atlantic, March 11, 2015, https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/03/sex-and-disability/386866.
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Margaret A. Nosek et al., Sexual Functioning among Women with Physical Disabilities, Archives of Physical Medicine and Rehabilitation 77 (1996): 107-15, https://doi.org/10.1016/S0003-9993 (96) 90154-9.
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Ariel Henley, Why Sex Education for Disabled People Is So Important, Teen Vogue, October 5, 2017, https://www.teenvogue.com/story/disabled-sex-ed.
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Wendy Lu, Dating With a Disability, New York Times, December 8, 2016, https://www.nytimes.com/2016/12/08/well/family/dating-with-a-disability.
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Karen Cuthbert, You Have to Be Normal to Be Abnormal: An Empirically Grounded Exploration of the Intersection of Asexuality and Disability, Sociology 51, no. 2 (2017): 241-57, doi.org/10.1177/0038038515587639.
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Cuthbert, You Have to Be Normal to Be Abnormal.
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Antonio Centeno and Raul de la Morena, dirs., Yes, We Fuck! 2015.
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Andrew Gurza, Disability after Dark, https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/andrew-gurza/disabilityafterdark.
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Maia de la Baume, Disabled People Say They, Too, Want a Sex Life, and Seek Help in Attaining It, New York Times, July 4, 2013, https://www.nytimes.com/2013/07/05/world/europe/disabled-people-say-they-too-want-a-sex-life-and-seek-help-in-attaining-it.html.
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Maureen S. Milligan and Aldred H. Neufeldt, The Myth of Asexuality: A Survey of Social and Empirical Evidence, Sexuality and Disability 19, no. 2 (2001): 91-109, https://doi.org/10.1023/A:1010621705591.
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Kristina Gupta, Happy Asexual Meets DSM, Social Text Journal, October 24, 2013, https://socialtextjournal.org/periscope_article/happy-asexual-meets-dsm/.
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Sciatrix, The Construct of the Unassailable Asexual, Knights of the Shaded Triangle (forum), October 23, 2010, http://shadedtriangle.proboards.com/thread/18.
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Sciatrix, The Construct of the Unassailable Asexual; Cuthbert, You Have to Be Normal to Be Abnormal.
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Nicola Davis, Scientists Quash Idea of Single Gay Gene, Guardian, August 29, 2019, https://www.theguardian.com/science/2019/aug/29/scientists-quash-idea-of-single-gay-gene. Not for distribution. © 2020 Beacon Press 198 Notes.
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Arthur Krystal, Why We Can’t Tell the Truth About Aging, New Yorker, October 28, 2019, https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2019/11/04/why-we-cant-tell-the-truth-about-aging.
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Heather Havrilesky, Ask Polly: I’m Trying to Go Gray and I Hate It! The Cut, December 18, 2019, https://www.thecut.com/2019/12/ask-polly-im-trying-to-go-gray-and-i-hate-it.html.
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Yumi Sukugawa, I Think I Am in Friend-Love With You, Sadie Magazine, 2012, retrieved from: https://therumpus.tumblr.com/post/36880088831/i-think-i-am-in-friend-love-with-you-written-by.
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Kim Brooks, I’m Having a Friendship Affair, The Cut, December 22, 2015, https://www.thecut.com/2015/12/friendship-affair-c-v-r.html.
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Alex Mar, Into the Woods: How Online Urban Legend Slender Man Inspired Children to Kill, Guardian, December 7, 2017, https://www.theguardian.com/ news/2017/dec/07/slender-man-into-the-woods-how-an-online-bogeyman-inspired-children-to-kill.
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Mary Embree, The Murder of the Century, HuffPost, May 21, 2013, https://www.huffpost.com/entry/the-murder-of-the-century_b_3312652.
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Embree, The Murder of the Century.
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We Were Not Lesbians, Says Former Juliet Hulme, New Zealand Herald, March 5, 2006, https://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=10371147.
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Lisa M. Diamond, What Does Sexual Orientation Orient? A Biobehavioral Model Distinguishing Romantic Love and Sexual Desire, Psychological Review 110, no. 1 (2003): 173-92, https://doi.org/10.1037//0033-295X.110.1.173.
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Dorothy Tennov, Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love (New York: Scarborough House, 1979), 74.
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Marta Figlerowicz and Ayesha Ramachandran, The Erotics of Mentorship, Boston Review, April 23, 2018, http://bostonreview.net/education-opportunity-gender-sexuality-class-inequality/marta-figlerowicz-ayesha-ramachandran.
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Fassler, How My High School Teacher Became My Abuser.
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Brooks, I’m Having a Friendship Affair.
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Fassler, How My High School Teacher Became My Abuser.
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Helen Fisher, Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love (New York: Henry Holt, 2004), 101-2.
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